A woman said her vaginal clamping condition made sex so painful it felt like she was being stabbed.
Katrin Maslenkova, 27, recently opened up about her struggles with vaginismus. The condition that affects 1 in 500 women and makes their vaginal muscles involuntarily tighten, meaning any activity that involves penetration is painful or impossible.
Maslenkova, who lives in Toronto, Canada, said she tried to lose her virginity when she was 18-years-old, but her then-boyfriend’s penis felt like it was ‘hitting a wall.’
‘He just wouldn’t go in. During another attempt or two, I did my best to relax and some penetration was possible,’ she said.
‘But just a little bit of him being inside me felt like a constant stabbing sensation, with silent tears streaming down my eyes.’
She continued: ‘It brought feelings within me that I wasn’t good enough and he just deserved better…I started to loathe where intimate touch was leading. So, I started to avoid it.’
Maslenkova said that the condition did not just hamper her ability to have sex, it also made inserting tampons a painful ordeal.
‘Many perfectly good tampons went straight into the bin with my unsuccessful attempts.’'I'm going to the gym' tops the list of the most popular alibis for cheaters
‘They were impossible to use; I tried, experienced a sense of hitting a wall, or really intense, sharp pain.’
In January 2010, Maslenkova brought up her concerns with her doctor, who told her she might be too young for sex.
‘The first guidance I was given by him is that I must be too young, and my body wasn’t ready for penetrative sex yet and I should wait,’ she said.
But after researching her symptoms online, she learned of vaginismus and went back to her doctor to schedule a gynecology appointment.
‘After quite a wait, the gynecologist did a pelvic exam and the word vaginismus wasn’t mentioned either. I also went through a vaginal ultrasound, in which I experienced the most pain.’How your star sign affects your sex life
‘After listening to me cry through it, the ultrasound specialist told me, “don’t worry honey, it will get better after kids,”‘ Maslenkova said.
She later sought help from a therapist who confirmed she had vaginismus.
‘After the relief, I felt overwhelmed with the road ahead of me overcoming vaginismus, but was motivated to finally live a pain free and intimate life.’
It was recommended she try dilating therapy, where dilators are used to stretch the vaginal muscles and help her stop associating penetration with pain.
Maslenkova said she experienced months of confusion during which she did not use the dilators because the devices offered limited instructions, but she eventually learned how to use them to encourage her muscles to relax while strengthening her pelvic floor.An orgasm allergy could leave you with anxiety, extreme fatigue and brain fog after sex
In 2016, she was finally able to have pain-free penetrative sex while she was single and is now able to have a ‘fulfilling sex life’ with her fiancé Dimitri.
Maslenkova has since quit her job as an accountant to help other women with her condition, writing a book titled ‘Breaking The Cycle Of Pain: Vaginismus.’
‘This has been a journey for me, and (Dimitri) has been encouraging through the process of creating my educational materials and getting them out into the world,’ she said.